Christian forgiveness is awfully demanding. There's really no wiggle room. We are called to forgive, or our sins will not be forgiven us.
But what I really want to know is where does "Forgive and forget" fit in with this. Is there any leeway there? Can we forgive and not forget? Is the "forget" part optional?
I always assumed they were mutually exclusive. Now I'm leaning the other way. I think forgetting must be an essential part of forgiveness. At least for me, I can't keep remembering past wrongs/hurts without getting upset again which nullifies my original forgiveness. Well, I can review them in a disinterested way, kind of like a medical examiner during an autopsy. I think, though, that we are talking about forgetting the hurt when we talk about forgetting in association with forgiveness, not forgetting the actual situation that caused it. That works for me, because a lot of times I learn the most from the situation after some time has passed. I can dissect it and see what went wrong as long as I keep the emotional memory out of it.
I've figured out that forgetting is a choice. If I see my thoughts starting to go there, back to the heartache, I stop them and say, "No," and divert them elsewhere. For this grace I am truly grateful.
This is all only my personal experience, of course. What about you? Do you think it is possible to forgive and not forget?